'I Miss My Normal Speaking Friend': Once BFFs Taylor Swift And Blake Lively’s Messages Reveal How Adult Friendships Often End Silently

Once inseparable, Taylor Swift and Blake Lively’s friendship is now being read through text messages in legal documents that hint at how even the closest bonds don’t end with fights but quietly with emotional fatigue. Colleen Hoover’s book It Ends With Us adaptation was mired in controversy long before its release. To give you a quick recap, what first caught public attention was the odd promotional strategy. Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni, the film’s lead actors did not appear together during promotions and had notably different tones in interviews. While Baldoni stressed on the importance of speaking up, seeking help and addressing abuse without shame, Blake focused more on fashion, hair and styling, creating an uneasy contrast for a film rooted

in themes of domestic violence.However, after fading from the spotlight for a while, the controversy has resurfaced and this time Taylor Swift has a big role in the narrative.A recap of the messages in documents associated with Lively's suit against Baldoni, which are now circulating suggests that Taylor initially supported Blake’s version of the script for the adaptation (alongside a few others Blake had brought in to back her vision) to counter Baldoni’s. Blake is seen thanking Taylor for standing by her, even though she did not read the draft in full. It appeared to be a classic show of loyalty, supporting a friend when she needed it most. But as more messages are revealed, the tone shifts.

It seems after a long silence while Blake was dealing with the controversy that blew totally out of control, she reaches out to Taylor to check if everything is okay, acknowledging that she had been caught up in her own chaos and may have distanced herself. Taylor’s response however carries a quiet sting pointing out that Blake’s message felt generic, as though it had been sent to multiple people, not just her. What follows is a careful but strained exchange which is marked by defensiveness, old affection and the odd discomfort of two people trying not to hurt each other while already feeling hurt. Taylor writes - "I miss my normal speaking friend."Blake also opens up about how several women she considered close friends turned against her during this period, something she admits left her shocked and deeply wounded. And that’s where this story stops being just about celebrities.

How adult friendships end without a blow-up

Not all friendships end with slammed doors, blocked numbers or one final, explosive argument. Most adult friendships end far more quietly through pauses that stretch too long, messages that feel carefully worded and silences that are never formally addressed.It’s rarely about one unforgivable act. Instead, it’s the accumulation of small disappointments like unanswered texts during a hard week, a check-in that feels generic rather than personal, support that shows up late or in a form that doesn’t quite land. Both people are still trying, but neither feels fully seen."Adulthood changes the rhythm of intimacy. Lives get crowded with careers, partners, children, crises and private struggles that leave little emotional bandwidth for repair. Conversations become polite instead of honest. Affection remains but it’s wrapped in caution. You choose not to say the thing that might start a difficult conversation because you are tired or because you don’t want to be another burden," shares counsellor Megha Pushkarna.What replaces confrontation is emotional distancing. You stop reaching out first because you simply assume the other person is busy. You interpret silence as a signal, even when no one meant it to be one. Over time, the friendship doesn’t just break, it thins.There’s often grief in this kind of ending, precisely because nothing officially ended. You still care and remember who they were to you. But the version of the friendship that once felt effortless no longer fits the lives you are living.These slow fades can be harder to process than dramatic fallouts. There is no proper closure, no cut out villain, no clear moment to point to. Just the quiet understanding that closeness requires mutual presence and without it, even the strongest bonds loosen. Not out of cruelty or betrayal but because people change, priorities shift and sometimes love alone isn’t enough to keep a friendship intact.Having said that, Taylor Swift and Blake Lively’s texts don’t confirm an ending. Friendships can evolve and reunite but it offers a familiar lens into how adult friendships change, soften and sometimes slip into silence.