Every week, I sit with parents who ask me some version of the same question:
“Why is my child falling sick so often?”
A cold turns into a cough. One fever fades, and another arrives. School days are missed,
and antibiotics or syrups slowly become routine in the house. Yes, pollution is worse, food is more adulterated, and viruses seem to be everywhere. But that is only part of the story.
The real question is: What does a growing immune system actually need to become wiser and stronger over time?
Your child’s immunity is not damaged or defective. It is still maturing. And just like a muscle, it doesn’t develop by being bubble-wrapped. It grows through the right mix of exposure, recovery, and everyday support.
A different world
Childhood today looks very different from what many of us experienced.
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Air quality is poorer in many cities; polluted air irritates young lungs and is linked to more respiratory infections and inflammation.
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Food is often highly processed, with emulsifiers, preservatives, excess sugar, and fake or adulterated ingredients that can disturb the gut microbiome and metabolic health.
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Screen time has replaced a lot of outdoor play. Fast-paced content, constant notifications, and overstimulation affect attention, mood, and emotional regulation.
On top of that, many children carry invisible stress: academic pressure, comparison, social media, and tension at home. Their nervous systems are on high alert, but their bodies are still expected to eat well, sleep well, perform well, and rarely fall sick.
Calm and even moments of boredom are not problems. Research by the American Psychological Association (APA) on unstructured time suggests that when children are allowed to pause, daydream, and play freely, the brain’s default mode network activates, supporting creativity, emotional processing, and integration of experiences.
Illness does not equal weak immunity
One of the first myths I like to correct for parents is this: Falling sick does not automatically mean your child has ‘poor immunity.’
When children come in contact with viruses and bacteria, the immune system is practising. Each infection is like a ‘class’ where the body learns to recognise, respond, and remember a threat more efficiently the next time.
The problem begins when this learning happens in a body that is already tired, poorly nourished, overstimulated, or emotionally unsettled.
It is the environment we’ve created around it:
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Constant sanitiser use and fear of germs
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Less outdoor play and more indoor screens
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Overuse of ultra-processed snacks
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Academic and social pressure at younger ages
All of this can confuse the immune system, leaving it either overreactive (allergies, frequent flare-ups) or underprepared.
The goal is not to isolate children from the world, but to help them live in better rhythm with it.
Where Immunity Truly Begins: Safety and Connection
Before we talk about food or supplements, we must acknowledge something simple and powerful: A child’s first immunity is emotional safety.
Children need your presence more than your products:
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Your eye contact when they talk
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Your arms around them when they feel unwell
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Your calm voice saying, “I’m here, you’re safe, we’ll handle this together.”
Touch settles their nervous system. A regulated nervous system supports better sleep, digestion, and recovery. A rushed “You’re fine, stop crying” does the opposite; it tells the body to stay in defence mode.
You can build emotional safety by:
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Having small daily check-ins: “How was your day? What was the best part? The hardest part?”
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Creating simple bedtime rituals: stories, cuddles, or gratitude sharing
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Teaching gentle self-talk: “My body is strong,” “I am healing,” “I’m safe and loved.”
When children feel seen and soothed, their biology shifts from fight or flight to rest and repair. That’s when real healing happens.
