Kirti Kulhari On How Ego Can 'Ruin' Relationships, Shares Her Non-Negotiables

Actress Kirti Kulhari plays one of the most loved characters inFour More Shots Please! as Anjana. The show’s final and fourth season recently dropped online. Amid promotions, the actress opened up about

why dealing with your own baggage is crucial for a healthy relationship. Kirti, who had earlier called marriage "overrated" after her separation, also spoke about the importance of shared goals and communication. She further got candid about how ego can ruin relationships when partners stop thinking from the heart and start operating from the mind.Kirti Kulhari Shares What's Key To Successful RelationshipsIn an exclusive chat with Zoom, Kirti said, "I think for me, figuring out your own drama and learning to drop it is the key to having a relationship at this point of time. For me, it would be about communication, and I think true communication can happen when each other’s personal drama is recognised first and then dropped as and when the time arises. I also believe that you have to have common goals and ek woh end jo aap dekhte hai, you should be able to see that together."She, however, acknowledged that nobody is perfect.

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Kirti Kulhari On How Ego Can 'Ruin' RelationshipsThe actress added, "If we can help each other just see the bullsh*t and baggage because I think that’s ego. That’s exactly what comes and ruins a relationship. Everything is so nice in the beginning because you’re not operating out of your mind and ego; your heart is open because it’s new and fresh. As time progresses and you become more familiar and comfortable, your ego starts stepping in, it wants drama. You start looking for reasons, triggers start happening, and you start responding to it, reacting to it. I think being very mindful that two people are together because they love each other and love has to do with the heart, not the mind. Remembering that, reminding each other in times of need, and creating that space for each other where you can express yourself. Good, bad, or ugly — we are all made up of different things. Creating that space out of love and respect is something I think is very, very important."Her co-star Bani J, aka Gurbani, who was also part of the chat, lauded her for her clarity.