The Concert Date Setback
A man invited a woman he'd recently met to a music performance, with the show scheduled to start at 7:30 PM. Unfortunately, his date arrived a full hour
after the concert was supposed to begin. While this initial tardiness was irritating, she apologized and offered to buy a drink, leading him to believe they could still salvage the evening. They decided to overlook the late start and enjoy the performance. The concert lasted for another hour. As the final notes faded, the man informed his date that he needed to head home, as he had work commitments and believed the evening's plan encompassed the concert and perhaps a casual drink. His understanding of the date's scope differed significantly from hers.
Dinner Expectations Clash
Following the concert's conclusion, the woman expressed that she was hungry, having not eaten prior to their outing, and fully expected dinner to be part of the date. The man attempted to explain that dinner would consume more time than they had available, given his work obligations and the late hour. He suggested that perhaps dinner could be arranged for a potential second date. This suggestion did not sit well with her. She stated that there would be no second date, asserting that he had violated a 'very important rule' of asking someone out. This disagreement escalated, leaving the original poster questioning whether his reaction was justified or if he had indeed erred in his approach to the evening's conclusion.
Reddit's Verdict: Dodged Bullet
The online community on Reddit, specifically the r/AITAH subreddit, largely sided with the original poster, suggesting that declining dinner was the sensible choice and that a second date would likely have been problematic. Many commenters pointed out the woman's significant lateness to the concert itself as a greater offense than his decision regarding dinner. Remarks included sentiments like, "You don't want a second date with this person," and expressing disbelief at being an hour late to a performance, calling it "beyond rude." The consensus was that the OP had "dodged a bullet," implying she would be a difficult partner. Other users agreed, highlighting that her expectations were not his responsibility and that arguing about dinner on a first date was a major red flag, reinforcing his decision to prioritize his time and boundaries.
