Actor Arshad Warsi was only 14 when he lost his father and mother within a short span, leaving him to grow up far too soon. On Raj Shamani’s podcast, Arshad spoke about the last time he saw his mother alive
– a moment he wishes he could change, even today.
He said his mother was a simple homemaker who suddenly found herself fighting for life after kidney failure. She was on dialysis. Doctors warned the family not to let her have water. But the young boy found it impossible to say “no” to his mother.
“My mother was a simple housewife who cooked great food. She had kidney failure, and she was on dialysis. Doctors had told us not to give her any water and she kept asking for it. I kept saying no, and the night before she passed away, she called for me and again started asking for water. She passed away that night, and it killed me,” said Arshad.
He revealed how the trauma still plays in his head, even though he knows he did what doctors advised. “There is also some part of myself that keeps telling me that if I had given her water and she had passed away after that, for my whole life I would think that died because I gave her water.”
Arshad shared that he was grateful he did not have to carry that guilt forever. But as an adult, he sees things differently. “Now I think that I should have given her the water. I was a kid back then, and I wanted to listen to what the doctor had said. Today I can take that decision, and choose to live with my family instead of spending my last days in the hospital. We never think about the person who is sick, instead we take decisions based on our guilt.”
After both parents passed away, life changed overnight. “I was very mature for my age, even as a kid. It was because we had lost a lot of money. My father was struggling and it was constantly going downhill. We started from a big house, had to leave that and the houses just kept getting smaller. After my dad and mom passed away, I barely cried, because I was trying to be a man; I was trying to sort things out. I cried weeks later, when it all hit me together.”
Even though decades have passed, the actor says he still carries those emotional scars.



 
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