‘Too Many Temptations, No Patience’: Gautami Kapoor Disagrees With Kajol, Twinkle Khanna On Infidelity

Kajol and Twinkle Khanna recently landed in the middle of a social media backlash following comments made on their talk show Two Much. During a candid discussion on marriage and fidelity, the duo suggested

that physical infidelity may not always be a deal-breaker, with Twinkle summing up the thought in her trademark humour: “raat gayi, baat gayi.”

The remarks quickly triggered outrage online, with several users accusing the actresses of normalising cheating. Addressing the criticism later, Kajol and Twinkle clarified that their comments were shaped by personal life experiences and were not meant to be universal relationship advice. They also contrasted their worldview with Janhvi Kapoor’s more idealistic outlook on love and commitment, reiterating that their opinions were strictly personal.

Gautami Kapoor Responds: ‘Disloyalty Is Disloyalty, Period’

Amid the ongoing discourse, actor Gautami Kapoor weighed in with a firm and contrasting stance. In an interview with Siddharth Kannan, Gautami was asked about the idea that physical infidelity might be forgivable as long as emotional loyalty remains intact.

She responded unequivocally, “For the kind of person I am, physical and emotional disloyalty is disloyalty—period.”

Gautami made it clear that while she respects differing viewpoints, her own boundaries are non-negotiable, “It doesn’t matter whether it’s physical, emotional, spiritual, transcendental—anything. Disloyalty is disloyalty. What she says is her point of view, and I respect that. But this is how I think, and there’s nothing wrong with that either.”

‘I Am Fiercely Loyal And Very Possessive’

Reacting more directly to Kajol’s comment that physical infidelity may not be a deal-breaker, Gautami admitted that she views relationships through a very different emotional lens, “I am a very possessive person—honestly speaking. Whether it’s my husband, my friends, my children, or even my team, I’m extremely possessive about the people around me.”

She explained that this possessiveness stems from how deeply she invests in relationships, “That’s because I am fiercely loyal. I give my 500% in every relationship—emotionally, physically, in all ways. I’m completely invested.”

For Gautami, betrayal—of any kind—comes with a heavy emotional cost, “Once there’s disloyalty, it takes a huge toll. It becomes a burden I carry.”

She further stressed that she does not believe the nature of betrayal should be minimised, “I shouldn’t be undermined by being told, ‘Oh, it was only physical.’ It may be okay for others, but it’s not okay for me.”

On Marriage Having An ‘Expiry Date’

Gautami also addressed another talking point from the show—whether marriage comes with an expiry date and a renewal clause, “I love Kajol—and I think Twinkle said this—but whoever said it, I love them for it,” she said, acknowledging that such remarks may come from lived experience or even spontaneous humour.

However, she added a caveat, “If you really analyse marriage today, I think marriage already comes with an expiry date—if you don’t work on it.”

Clarifying her position, Gautami stressed that she does not believe marriage is inherently temporary, “You want it to be for life—but marriage is not easy. You go through many dynamics as a couple.”

‘People Give Up Too Easily Today’

Reflecting on modern relationships, Gautami observed a growing lack of patience and resilience, “Earlier, people would say, ‘Let’s figure this out.’ Today, at the first argument, people are ready to call it quits.”

She pointed to modern pressures as contributing factors, “There are too many options, too many temptations, and almost no patience. People don’t have the time, hunger, or fire to make something work.”

Still Believes In Fighting For Marriage

Despite changing social attitudes, Gautami said she continues to believe in working through difficulties rather than walking away at the first sign of trouble, “I’m not from that generation that gives up instantly. If you got married for the right reasons, maybe you can give it another chance.”

She concluded with a grounded reflection on contemporary relationships, “People today lack the time, patience, and even the bandwidth to make relationships work.”