Till Lover, ‘Blue Drum’ Do Us Apart: Meerut Man Wants To Help Wife Of 15 Years Marry Youth

The Meerut Police were in for a peculiar situation when a man, married for 15 years and father of three, walked into Sarurpur police station with an unusual request — he wanted official permission to get his wife married to her lover. The 38-year-old, who worked as mason, said he was doing so out of love, not resentment. “I loved her from the core of my heart, but I want her to be happy — even if it’s not with me. I don’t want another ‘blue drum’ tragedy in Meerut,” he told News18. The‘blue drum’ reference harks back to a recent shocking case in Meerut where a man’s body was found stuffed in a blue plastic drum, allegedly by his wife and her lover. “When I saw that news, I was shaken. I decided I would never let hatred destroy me like that man.

I chose love and peace,” the Meerut resident said.

The unusual request

In his written application to police, the Sarurpur resident sought permission to solemnise his divorced wife’s nikah with her lover — a youth from the same village. He wrote that both families were in agreement and that neither his ex-wife nor her lover should be harassed in the future.
Officers at Sarurpur police station were startled by the request. “It’s rare to receive such an application from a husband. We called him in and verified the facts. He spoke calmly and without bitterness,” said a senior police officer.

A marriage of 15 years

The man had an arranged match fixed by their families in Prayagraj. They built a home in Sarurpur, where they raised three children — a 13-year-old daughter, an 11-year-old son, and a five-year-old daughter.
The house, he said, stands on land gifted by his wife’s family and is registered in her name. “We were happy for many years. Then, about a year ago, a young man from our village came to work on our house. They started talking, and slowly, things changed,” he said.
Six months ago, he learned of his wife’s affair. “When I confronted her, she said she loved him deeply and wanted to marry him. I was broken, but I also understood her honesty. I tried to convince her to stay for the children’s sake, but she didn’t change her mind. That day, I realised that love cannot be forced.”

‘I know the pain of unfulfilled love’

The husband said he decided to set her free instead of turning bitter. “I know the pain of incomplete love. I didn’t want her to live that pain. People kill in the name of love, but I believe real love is when you want the other person to be happy — even if it breaks you,” he said.
Six months ago, the couple formally divorced by mutual consent. Both families and even the children, he said, have accepted the decision. “My children know everything. They said if their mother is happy, we will be too. That gave me strength,” he added.

No cleric ready to perform rituals

However, finding a cleric to solemnise the marriage has turned into another challenge. “No maulvi in Meerut or Sarurpur is willing to perform the nikah. They say it’s not appropriate,” he said. “Now I’m planning to go to Delhi, where some clerics have agreed to conduct it.”

‘I will stay in the same house, but never marry again’

Even after the nikah, the man plans to stay in the same house, which belongs to his wife. “She told me I can live here. I will never marry again. I will live with her memories. My life’s purpose now is to see her happy,” he said.
Police, meanwhile, confirmed that they are handling the matter with sensitivity. “As long as it’s consensual and lawful, there is no issue,” said a senior officer.

The man’s decision has stirred conversations across Meerut — some calling it an act of unmatched selflessness, others seeing it as a reflection of emotional exhaustion. But for him, it’s simply love in its purest form. “I loved her too deeply to cage her. She asked what I could do for her love — and I gave her freedom. That’s my way of loving her.”