Relationships today can be fragile and many couples part ways over small issues. For those trying to find a life partner through arranged marriage, the process can feel stressful, especially when you don’t know the person well before committing. A 29-year-old woman recently shared her struggle after her long-term boyfriend ended their relationship. She had been dating him with the hope of marriage, but he decided he no longer wanted to marry her.
After the breakup, she tried using matrimony websites, but the experience left her frustrated. Many of the matches she saw did not meet her expectations in terms of personality or financial stability. She feels she had a unique connection with her ex. Now, she finds it difficult to imagine getting close
to anyone else and fears that after turning 30, finding a compatible partner will become even harder.
29 Year Old Woman Struggles After Boyfriend Ends Relationship
Taking to Reddit, the girl wrote, “Long-term boyfriend of 3 years dumped me. We were planning to marry and he doesn’t want to get married (to me) anymore. I tried matrimony sites but it’s been a nightmare. Most of the men earn really low and no body appeals to me. I felt physically attracted and mentally comfortable with my ex from day one. I could be myself without 0 fakeness in front of him. I feel l can never be honest or raw with any other man. We were physically intimate as well and I now dread touching or getting touched by another man.”
“I still want to get back to my ex because I feel I can’t be compatible with anyone else. Most of the matches are just not appealing to me. Not sure what I should do now. I’m 29 now. Post 30, it’ll be even more difficult to get a good match,” she added.
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Users’ Advice: Healing First And Not Rushing Into Marriage
Reacting to the post, a user wrote, “Age is not an issue. Marriage is not a goal to be achieved by a certain age. Live, heal, find yourself first.”
Another shared, “You can’t treat the only life you’ve got as a deadline lady. Don’t just marry anyone; slow down. Take care of your body, health, mind and career. The guy will come along.”
“Heal before you rush into marriage,” a comment read.
An individual stated, “Life doesn’t end when you’re 30. Stop feeling pressured just because of your age. Literally nothing changes at 30 vs things at 29.”
Another mentioned, “Try and adjust with the breakup first. Then look for a partner. I know the number 30 is dreadful, but give yourself time for a few months at least, then think about marriage. Rushing into marriage with the wrong guy or when you are not ready fully will make things worse in the long run.”
One more added, “We have been fed this by a patriarchal and misogynistic society where a natural process of ageing is a crime when it comes to women. 29 feels scary because we’re about to touch 30, which, according to society, is like an expiration date for women. Take up therapy if you can, discover yourself. Fall in love with yourself first. No one can stop ageing. Don’t let a natural process rush you into a lifelong commitment. I am unmarried at 33, met my boyfriend at the beginning of this year. It is about you, not what society thinks. Heal yourself first.”
In her comments, the woman shared that she still wants to get back with her ex. She admitted that while she was not completely happy in the relationship, she still had strong feelings for him and cared about his well being. Now, she finds it hard to accept that someone who did kind things for her no longer wants to be with her.
